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3 Ekiti Teachers In Police Custody For Allegedly Raping Students

The police in Ekiti State have arrested three secondary school teachers for allegedly having carnal knowledge of female students who were deemed to be minors. The three suspects, who are currently being detained at the police headquarters in Ado Ekiti, ...
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Fresh Unilorin Student celebrates getting admitted into the University 8 years after leaving secondary school (Photos)-

February 26, 2020 One the newly admitted student of university of Ilorin, Kwara state has taken Twitter to celebrate getting admitted into the prestigious university after 8 years of leaving secondary school. @ambitioushayzed revealed that he wrote 3 WAEC and 5 ...
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own anger in 60 seconds or less, according to a psychologist ShareFacebookTwitterLinkedInWhatsAppSMSTelegram font size Print Email Rate this item12345(0 votes) How to calm your own anger in 60 seconds or less, according to a psychologist Your angry feelings are tied up with your thoughts, a simple experiment proves. Do you ever get really angry? And when it happens, especially at work, are the consequences good or bad? I’m not talking about the competitive zeal you might get when a competitor beats you out for a lucrative sale and you feel determined to beat them out next time around. I’m talking about the rage that can take over when someone treats you unfairly, or insults you, or even cuts you off in traffic. That kind of anger can leave you feeling helpless, useless, self-pitying, and unable to focus on the tasks at hand. Wouldn’t it be great if you could somehow quiet that anger when it first arises, so you could think logically about how to respond? Well, there is a way, and it comes from recognizing the truth about anger. Although it is a feeling, it results directly from what you’re thinking, and from the meaning you derive from the words or acts that have ticked you off. To prove it, psychologist Jeffrey Nevid, Ph.D. proposes a simple experiment: Spend 60 seconds making yourself feel really angry while keeping your mind completely blank. Sure, you can summon up that awful thing your spouse said or the way your boss never gives you the information you need and feel real red-hot anger in a second or two. But try and feel it while not thinking about anything. If you’re like most people, Nevid says, you can’t do it, not really. What that means, he writes, is that our anger is always the result of thoughts. The thing is, those thoughts can be completely wrong. Once when I was around ten years old, I flew into a sorrowful rage because in the middle of an argument, my mother had called me a “sickening child.” At least, that’s what I heard. I found out later that what she’d actually said was, “I’m sick and tired.” Not every burst of anger results from mishearing what someone else said, of course. But it often arises from placing your own interpretation and understanding onto someone else’s words and behavior, rather than trying to figure out what that person is actually feeling and thinking. With that in mind, Nevid also offers a one-minute exercise for managing your own anger and regaining your calm. 1. Allow yourself to feel angry. Trying to tell yourself you aren’t angry when you are won’t help you get past your anger, it will just make your anger stronger, as happens to every emotion that we try to deny or ignore. So don’t ignore or deny it. Admit to yourself that you feel angry and if it’s appropriate, don’t conceal your anger from other people either. 2. But don’t allow yourself to feel helpless. Ever notice that whenever we get angry, we think of it as something that was done to us? People and events “make” us angry, suggesting that we are innocent victims of that emotion. This is exemplified by the comic book character Bruce Banner, who pleads, “Don’t make me angry,” because if you do, against his will, he will transform into the Incredible Hulk. I don’t mean to suggest that your anger is completely voluntary. Something does usually set it off. But, as Nevid’s 60-second experiment shows, anger cannot exist separated from your thoughts about whatever it is that made you feel that way. So the story you tell yourself about whatever made you angry can either inflame that anger more and more, or allow it to slowly dissipate. It really is up to you. 3. Apply emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence or EQ is generally defined as the ability to understand and manage our own emotions, and to understand and influence the emotions of others. You need EQ to manage your own anger, both to understand and acknowledge your own feelings, but also to understand and empathize with others. That person who just cut you off in traffic may be hurrying to the hospital because a loved one is ill. The colleague who just insulted you may not have intended the comment as an insult. Or, he or she may be having a very bad day, and reacting badly as a result. Or maybe you’re taking something personally that wasn’t really directed at you. As Nevid writes, “When you approach the other person with empathy (accurate understanding of the other person’s feelings), you quell the tendency to respond to inappropriate anger with anger of your own.” If you can do that, you can stop a conflict from escalating out of control. You may get to understand the people who make you angry better. They might even understand you better too.

Your angry feelings are tied up with your thoughts, a simple experiment proves. Do you ever get really angry? And when it happens, especially at work, are the consequences good or bad? I’m not talking about the competitive zeal you might ...
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Police Van Kills Two Schoolgirls In Jigawa Read more at: https://ekohotblog.com/2020/02/22/police-van-kills-two-schoolgirls-in-jigawa/

Police Van Kills Two Schoolgirls In Jigawa By Doris Israel -Feb 22, 2020. A police van pursuing a commercial vehicle on Friday in Mallammadori Local Government Area of Jigawa State knocked down and killed two schoolgirls while four others were ...
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Cultism: Police, Secondary School Students Clash In Akwa Ibom

Posted by Kamani Desmond on February 21, 2020> The students of Government Technical College (GTC), Ewet in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State on Wednesday clashed with the Nigeria Police over raging cultism in the school. PARADISE NEWS gathered that the Students of the ...
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FESRT Hails JAC: NYSC Sensitize Corps Members On Job Creation, Business Ownership

NYSC 2019 JAC PROGRAM. As part of preparatory ceremony marking the passing out parade of the Nations Youth Service Corps NYSC 2019 Batch A, Ondo Chapter, the State Coordinator of the scheme, Mrs Grace Akpabio on Wednesday organized a Job ...
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UNILAG Lecturer Sentenced to 21 Years in Prison For Raping Admission Seeker

February 20, 2020 An Ikeja  High Court on Thursday sentenced a part-time lecturer at the University of Lagos, Akoka, Afeez Baruwa, to 21- year imprisonment for  raping an 18-year-old girl admission seeker. Justice Josephine Oyefeso convicted Baruwa  of a one ...
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Journalist Gets Leave To Sue UNILAG, VC Over Alleged Act Violation

By Ademola Adam A Federal High Court in Lagos has granted leave to an investigative journalist, Tobore Ovuorie, in her N15million suit against the authorities of the University of Lagos (UNILAG) and its Vice Chancellor for alleged unlawful breach of ...
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Tragedy Looms OAU As Fire Razes Down Students’ Hostel

February 19, 2020 By Ademola Adam Yesterday it wasn’t a nice evening for the occupants of House 16,Ede Road, Ile-Ife as Fire engulfed the building mostly occupied by OAU students. According to reports making rounds at the scene of the ...
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Gunmen abduct 6 JAMB officials in Kogi, 1 rescued

Posted by  News Express |  18 February 2020 |  100 times By YEKINI JIMOH, Lokoja One of the six staff of the Joint Admissions and Matriculation Board (JAMB) that was abducted, on Sunday, along the Obajana Road, in Kogi State, has been rescued by ...
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